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If you put someone on a pedestal, they have no choice but to look down on you.

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On the left is Richie, my fiancé, about a year and a half into our relationship and pre-t. He had come out as trans to me about a few months prior to that. On the right is Richie 4 years later and almost 3 years on testosterone. We’ve been together almost 5 years now and his birthday is coming up.

I created a secret top surgery fund for him in hopes to surprise him for his birthday on August 30th. I’m not at all expecting $5000 to be raised by then, in fact, I don’t have any kind of expectation towards the amount raised before his birthday. I just wanted to get this started for him as a surprise to remind him that there are so many people that love him and support him and are wishing him a happy birthday and I know any amount donated would be the best birthday surprise he could ever receive.

Right now, Richie doesn’t believe that top surgery will ever be a reality for him and I want to change that incredibly dangerous mind set. A whopping 41% of trans* people attempt suicide. Richie’s dysphoria, negativity and hopelessness has been growing at an alarming rate. I want to do everything I can to prevent and/or limit the amount of pain he has to deal with on a daily basis. Top surgery would undoubtably eliminate a big chunk of it. 

Richie has been medically transitioning for almost 3 years. He has identified as trans for about 4 years. In that time, he has seen so many of his friends within the community get top surgery and it has been a silent struggle for him. He has become more reclusive, isolated and depressed. I don’t want Richie to ever feel inhibited by his body and/or isolated because of it. This year for his birthday, I want him to truly believe that top surgery is entirely possible for him and unquestionably going to happen in the near future. I can’t do that alone, so I’m reaching out to his family, friends, my followers on tumblr, as well as any kind strangers who may know what it feels like to deal with dysphoria or just want to help out an amazing guy who has done so much for others. I honestly can’t imagine anything better than knowing that we all helped make it possible for him to live happily, authentically and without fear or insecurity of his identity, by contributing to the single most liberating and defining moment in his life. I know top surgery will change his life forever and I know that it is something that will give him back that contagious spark and thirst for life that he used to have and remind him that he once thought the world was beautiful and it still is. 

Please spread the word by reblogging and if you’re capable of donating anything, you have no idea how much it is appreciated. No amount is too little so please do not feel embarrassed if you can only donate a dollar or two, I’m still just as humbled by your generosity. 

For those of you who have already donated and/or have been reblogging and sharing this with your followers or friends, I am forever indebted to you all.


The link to donate: 
http://www.gofundme.com/topsecrettopsurgery

I will not stop reblogging this until he doesn’t ever have to worry about wearing a binder for 12+ hours a day and come home with bruises on his back, or be afraid that someone will see the outline of his binder through his shirt and be outed, or doesn’t have to close his eyes whenever he takes a shower because the sight of his chest right now makes him feel further disconnected from his body. This is no way to live and as his partner, I can’t sit idly by and allow him to continue half-living like this.

I’ve gotten in touch with Rodeoh.com, thanks to an amazing follower Stefanie. They have agreed to offer a $25 gift certificate to all contributors of $100 or more!!If you haven’t, check out the website, there are so many great products from rodeoh and hopefully this will encourage more people to donate for a great cause!

SIGNAL BOOST. Let’s keep this going! I’ve seen pictures of random pretty girls get hundreds of thousands of reblogs and likes. Let’s like and reblog something that will potentially change someone’s life forever. You can make an impact that significant and powerful in a strangers life, it’s your choice and you can make that choice right now by reblogging the hell out if this.

I know we still have a month left but there’s still a long long ways to go. We need to raise $3266 in the next 30 days, guys! That’s about $108 a day. I know it’s an ambitious goal but if you can spare $5, please please do. I can’t stress how much every little donation counts and adds up. If everyone who reblogged or liked this was capable of donating a dollar, Richie’s top surgery goal would have been met by now. Before you just hit the like and/or reblog button and move on, I urge you to seriously consider if you can spare a couple dollars. I would never ask for help if I didn’t need it. Right now, I need it more than ever.

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On the left is Richie, my fiancé, about a year and a half into our relationship and pre-t. He had come out as trans to me about a few months prior to that. On the right is Richie 4 years later and almost 3 years on testosterone. We’ve been together almost 5 years now and his birthday is coming up.

I created a secret top surgery fund for him in hopes to surprise him for his birthday on August 30th. I’m not at all expecting $5000 to be raised by then, in fact, I don’t have any kind of expectation towards the amount raised before his birthday. I just wanted to get this started for him as a surprise to remind him that there are so many people that love him and support him and are wishing him a happy birthday and I know any amount donated would be the best birthday surprise he could ever receive.

Right now, Richie doesn’t believe that top surgery will ever be a reality for him and I want to change that incredibly dangerous mind set. A whopping 41% of trans* people attempt suicide. Richie’s dysphoria, negativity and hopelessness has been growing at an alarming rate. I want to do everything I can to prevent and/or limit the amount of pain he has to deal with on a daily basis. Top surgery would undoubtably eliminate a big chunk of it.

Richie has been medically transitioning for almost 3 years. He has identified as trans for about 4 years. In that time, he has seen so many of his friends within the community get top surgery and it has been a silent struggle for him. He has become more reclusive, isolated and depressed. I don’t want Richie to ever feel inhibited by his body and/or isolated because of it. This year for his birthday, I want him to truly believe that top surgery is entirely possible for him and unquestionably going to happen in the near future. I can’t do that alone, so I’m reaching out to his family, friends, my followers on tumblr, as well as any kind strangers who may know what it feels like to deal with dysphoria or just want to help out an amazing guy who has done so much for others. I honestly can’t imagine anything better than knowing that we all helped make it possible for him to live happily, authentically and without fear or insecurity of his identity, by contributing to the single most liberating and defining moment in his life. I know top surgery will change his life forever and I know that it is something that will give him back that contagious spark and thirst for life that he used to have and remind him that he once thought the world was beautiful and it still is.

Please spread the word by reblogging and if you’re capable of donating anything, you have no idea how much it is appreciated. No amount is too little so please do not feel embarrassed if you can only donate a dollar or two, I’m still just as humbled by your generosity.

For those of you who have already donated and/or have been reblogging and sharing this with your followers or friends, I am forever indebted to you all.

The link to donate:
http://www.gofundme.com/topsecrettopsurgery

I will not stop reblogging this until he doesn’t ever have to worry about wearing a binder for 12+ hours a day and come home with bruises on his back, or be afraid that someone will see the outline of his binder through his shirt and be outed, or doesn’t have to close his eyes whenever he takes a shower because the sight of his chest right now makes him feel further disconnected from his body. This is no way to live and as his partner, I can’t sit idly by and allow him to continue half-living like this.

I’ve gotten in touch with Rodeoh.com, thanks to an amazing follower Stefanie. They have agreed to offer a $25 gift certificate to all contributors of $100 or more!!

If you haven’t, check out the website, there are so many great products from rodeoh and hopefully this will encourage more people to donate for a great cause!

SIGNAL BOOST. Let’s keep this going! I’ve seen pictures of random pretty girls get hundreds of thousands of reblogs and likes. Let’s like and reblog something that will potentially change someone’s life forever. You can make an impact that significant and powerful in a strangers life, it’s your choice and you can make that choice right now by reblogging the hell out if this.

I know we still have a month left but there’s still a long long ways to go. We need to raise $3266 in the next 30 days, guys! That’s about $108 a day. I know it’s an ambitious goal but if you can spare $5, please please do. I can’t stress how much every little donation counts and adds up. If everyone who reblogged or liked this was capable of donating a dollar, Richie’s top surgery goal would have been met by now.

Before you just hit the like and/or reblog button and move on, I urge you to seriously consider if you can spare a couple dollars. I would never ask for help if I didn’t need it. Right now, I need it more than ever.

I finally talked to a guy I’ve been wanting to chat with for a little while… and it turned out kinda shitty. He’d bounced his gf drama off me, asking what I’D do in the same scenario, both as her and as him. I gave my opinion and he was all, “RIGHT? Exactly.”

So they broke up, and I made my (awkward weird and fumbly text) move. I told him I thought he was pretty cool and that it’d be neat to hang out, get a drink, get to know each other better; I would like to be friends.

(I had some help from a friend to edit my original text so I didn’t sound like a complete toolbag.)

The text was sent in the morning. The next day, I hadn’t heard back at all, where before I sent that we’d been sorta chatting. Then I saw his “ex” had posted on Facebook calling him “babe”. Ok. Flags waving wtf.

So, me being a direct sorta lady, I asked him if he still had a gf. He responded in the affirmative. Well all righty. We haven’t talked since that day. He showed up where I was hanging out, his gf tagging along. At least I was wearing my sexy dress. Felt kinda crappy, but that’s just ilfe.

Feeling so much better today! Last night, a friend of his was posting on my Facebook stuff, so I randomly messaged him and we ended up chatting for almost four hours! 

We have SO much in common. Every time one of us would say something about ourselves, the other would just be all, “YES! EXACTLY. SAME HERE.” 

It’s incredibly uplifting just to talk to someone who understands you because they are the same. I think I wanna give this guy a hug. For like, ten minutes.

Moi, last night. Just realised I took my necklace of howlite off though. Noodles.

Moi, last night. Just realised I took my necklace of howlite off though. Noodles.

I’ve been away from the net awhile.

Does anyone else NOT think Kelly Clarkson’s daughter’s name SCREAMS Doctor Who fandom??

"River Rose". COME ON NOW.

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HE HANDED THAT SHIT TO HIMMMMM

Farrakhan does not fear man. Amen.

DANM!!

I think this make the 10th time ive reblogged this 

amazing

Put him in his place without using Profanity, or violence.. Now thats some boss shit

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TUMBLR FRIENDS! Please help.

I have a wicked oak staff that I want to train to use as a weapon. I built my armor already, you know, because of the Zompocalypse (or whichever variant occurs first), but Google is poop and I can’t find any free videos. I’d teach myself, but unlearning bad habits is harder than learning the right ones first.

Can anyone help me find some good vids for learning how to use this? Staff/stick training will be super helpful to take out zombies semi-quietly, or perhaps those meddling kids before they steal my gasoline.

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if u know ur myers briggs personality type please check this out it is literally the coolest thing ever 

I looked and Hawkeye Pierce and I are both ENFP. That is all I ever really needed to know.

ISFJ. I’m like Neville. Heh. Cool. EDIT: I’m Hannelore and Ianto Jones too yay!

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I am turning all my favourite books into Wizardy Tomes.

Yup. Hand-bound and possibly handwritten as well.

I want people to come into my library and think they stepped into Merlin’s tower. Hell yes.

Gonna make that happen.

Paperbacks are for chumps. 

In order for Tumblr to change their policy…Reblog if you want the 250 post limit to be removed.

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REBLOG LIKE AN ULTIMATE DIGIMON

THIS NEEDS MORE NOTES

nope sorry no more reblogs cause we’ve all hit POST LIMIT GODDAMMIT

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WELL NOODLES

Now I know why I’m feeling cruddy and looking older.

Reading all this info on how kissing improves like EVERYTHING, and hugging boosts your immune system.

I’m close onto 2 years with practically none of either.

My best friend has been alone about 6 years. Huh. And hugging him is like hugging a bag of rocks. We both need to find someone to hug.

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